buzzing3starhotel:

in stone butch blues leslie feinberg talked abt the 3 items of women’s clothing rule where the police who raided lesbian bars wld check to see how much these women were still upholding femininity. i have never been thru that but i remember reading it + how much it resonated w me. this rule has not been expelled from our cultures mentality… i remember telling a straight woman i was considering getting a buzzcut + the 1st thing she said was ‘oh, they look great w big hoop earrings.’ there’s like a sort of balancing act where for every item of men’s clothing u’ve got to do penance thru makeup + accessories……. + its got everything to do w reassuring the person viewing you, who might feel challenged by ur shirt or jacket or jeans + so needs to be able to look down n take comfort from the pair of heels on ur feet. saddest manifestation is definitely when we internalize it– when the fear of being marked not-woman makes us wear sth we hate, just for some tie 2 femininity. the more masculine the clothing, the thicker the makeup

closet-keys:

cool ideas for gritty realistic television series that don’t involve racist and/or misogynist torture porn or involve dystopian futures or “alternate history where nazis/slave owners won” or involve thematic justification of eugenics through protagonists leaving disabled & injured community members to die: 

  • “robin hood” heist thriller set in present day about anticapitalist militants taking down capitalists and redistributing material resources, and how individual families benefit
  • following one chosen family of urban disabled & neurodiverse LGBTQ folks as they navigate communal care in a post-revolution world marred by the effects of climate change and disaster, gradually building a solarpunk utopia that will accommodate everyone’s needs 
  • following the folks in a local anarchist agricultural community post-communist revolution and how they navigate taking care of each other and unlearning capitalist socialization while simultaneously trying to teach better values to their children
  • following the romantic and broader interpersonal life of an indigenous person outside Western settler gender and sexuality systems after complete trans liberation and decolonization 
  • following a historian studying the pre-revolution, pre-climate disaster world, with each episode focusing on a single pivotal moment. the series as a whole provides a dramatized template to viewers of how a sustainable communist global community can be built from the ashes of a dying world.