summerbutch:

we get a lot of questions like “am i allowed to do this if i’m butch”, “can i be femme and do that”, “is it okay for me to do this as a lesbian”, etc. i’ve been trying to understand why these messages bother me. i think i’m worried about y’all clinging to labels instead of being yourselves. i’m worried that y’all are more concerned with the validation of strangers on the internet that you are with being true to yourselves and loving yourselves.

what i’m saying is there isn’t a set of rules you have to follow. and your priority shouldn’t be to follow rules anyway, it should be to be yourself! aso i think the important questions are questions you should ask yourself. ask, do i identify with butches/femmes/lesbians? am i being true to myself by calling myself butch/femme/a lesbian?

does it accurately describe my experiences?

do i feel that it hinders my self expression or more freely enables it? does this make me happy?

do i feel like myself when i call myself this?

do i feel restricted or freed when i call myself a butch/femme/a lesbian? is this what i want to be?